There are many things to work out before bringing Mother home. She used to be able to walk up stairs, now she can't. She used to be able to fix her own food, now she can't. She used to be able to take care of her own personal needs, and now she can't. The change happened quickly, as we are told is usually the way it goes.
The best thing we have done was to hire a Home Health Care company to help us through this process. They will oversee the health details and watch for what we might miss. A CNA (Certified Nursing Assistant) will come in during the week as needed to bathe and check on health. A companion will come in one evening a week so my husband and I can have a 'date night'. We have been told it is very important to build in time for ourselves, both individually and together.
There have to be some changes in the house as well. No longer can she live in her nice little garden level apartment in the house. We have moved her to our daughter's bedroom, which is next door to ours. The domino effect of that move is still in progress.  Daughter has to move to the old guest room, Mother's old bedroom becomes the new guest room.
Stair lifts, lift chairs, grab bars, transfer benches, toilet assist items-- we have been introduced to an entire world of elder care items. Who knew? We are waiting for a determination as to whether we need a hospital bed for her, other than that I think we are finished with the paraphernalia part of this transformation...